Good vs. Godly Men

So it’s been a rough few days. Nothing bad has happened. No one in our family is sick. *THANK YOU LORD! I SO APPRECIATE THAT!* I have just felt overwhelmed & frustrated.

There’s a lot going on right now. Church events, School events, birthdays, baby showers, etc… My mind just feels like it’s swimming with everything that is coming up. I feel like I can’t get ahead of everything and because of that I feel extremely frustrated.

This all came to a head last night. I could not just relax and let go. After the girls went to bed I found myself crying to my husband about it all. I finally said to him,

“The worst part of it all is that I KNOW I should give it all to God but I haven’t been! My prayers lately have been hollow and empty. I pray for everyone & everything except myself and my frustrations!”

Now, before I continue I have to say that what he said to me COMPLETELY explains the main reason I knew I was supposed to marry him. Forget my puppy love for him, his blonde hair, his blue eyes, the fact that he’s a great cook… THIS is why I married him.

He said, “Let’s pray about it now… Together.”

AMEN HALLELUJAH PRAISE THE LORD!

You see, my husband isn’t a “Good Man”, he’s a “Godly Man”. As a husband he is the spiritual leader of our home. He looks out for our physical & spiritual well being. He cares about my relationship with Jesus Christ and takes an active role in my spiritual growth.

We sat together last night and prayed. We asked God for peace, guidance, & strength. We thanked Him for the blessings He has given us & for the plans he has for us that we don’t even know about yet. As my husband prayed over me I cried and felt The Lord remind me that He has given me a partner to share my burdens with.


The problem is when I was a teenager “Godly Man” was not at the top of my priority list when it came to “Qualities of my Future Husband”.

By 17 I had an ongoing mental list of qualities that were important to me in a future husband.
1. MUST be smart
2. MUST be creative
3. MUST love music
4. MUST have a sense of humor
5. MUST be driven & be hard working
6. SHOULD be a Christian

That’s right… I put SHOULD be a Christian. I can honestly say that whether my husband knew Jesus Christ as his Savior & Lord really seemed more like an added bonus than a necessity. Looking back it really should have been my main priority. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if it had been important to me when I started dating.

I’ve had some girls ask me how to know who to date or marry. I like to share this bit of advice that I got after I was already dating my husband. I wish I had gotten it sooner.

“Run as fast as you can toward Jesus Christ. Run the race described in Hebrews 12:1. Make Jesus your priority and focus. As you are running, look around you and see who is there. Who is running with you toward Jesus Christ? Those are the people to surround yourself with. Those are your best friends, accountability partners, & dating prospects.”

A person does not know what REAL love is unless he or she has accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord & Savior. The love of Christ is what REAL love is. The love of Christ is forgiving, full of grace, full of mercy, and never ending. He gave everything, he gave his life for us. If you don’t know Him, then you don’t know what love should look like.

A “Godly Man” will not only love you and treat you the way that Jesus would treat you, but he will also invest in your relationship with Christ. If he is truly a follower of Jesus Christ, he will want to find a wife who has a relationship with Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14 calls us to not be “yoked together with unbelievers”. In order to be the spiritual head of your household he has to lead & help you grow.

I am so thankful that God put my husband and I on the same college campus. I am thankful that He arranged for us to be introduced to each other. I am thankful that my in-laws raised him in a Godly Christian Home. I can’t imagine what our marriage would be like without OUR faith & OUR trust in The Lord.

What do you think? Do you have an example of a Godly man in your life that you would like to share? Please feel free to leave a comment below, I would love you hear from you!

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8 thoughts on “Good vs. Godly Men

  1. Greta Smith (@divinelydevelop) says:

    Oh how wonderful! Every single Christian woman should read this. I counsel singles and this is an absolute must if you decide to end your single state then make sure that your priority is the man who is godly and is concerned about your Christian walk. Great job

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  2. lperkowski says:

    What a great read! I’m not married yet myself, but I love hearing words of wisdom from Christian women who are. šŸ™‚ I recently wrote about how single women should “get rid of their lists” because there is only one thing that we really need-a man who is on fire for the Lord. This post has a similar message. Keep spreading the good word!

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